Like people have their own definitions of love, so they must have their own definition of "purity", isn't it?
But according to our Indian society, "pure" refers to "being a virgin". So, when I came across this topic "Premarital Sex", I thought of asking our generation about the same, asking our society in order to see how much the society has changed and what are their opinions now. Following are their comments on premarital sex:
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Sameer Sangwan: Yes, i support premarital sex. You love someone, you think he/she is the one, so why not? Indians need to change their mindset about premarital sex. The world is changing. We need to change too.
I believe that i have taken birth in a society with a culture that hasn't been forced upon me but has been continuing from generations. There's a reason why i was born in a place where premarital sex is considered a taboo. Though i don't see it as one, but i find fun in carrying forward the culture that somehow differentiates us from the rest of the world.
Sudhanya: What I feel about sex as a whole is that it is very personal. If two people are ready for each other, no one has the right or the need to oppose it.
Before or after marriage, it doesn't matter!
Not all the relationships last long.
That's what I think. I have not seen a single relationship that has worked out perfectly. But let's just say, I've not lived my entire life yet.
Having sex before marriage is fine for those who want to get involved with their partners but they should keep in mind that he/she may not be "the one".
So, I don't support premarital sex.
Mridul Kumar :I support premarital sex. I don't understand why Indians make it sound so bad? If it's that bad, then why is the legal age for sex in India decreasing! Guys, KAMASUTRA was made in India. We Indians have a stereotype of sex being a very bad thing!
Nischay Chaudhary:
Premarital sex is rather taboo in India which always confuses me. Being born in the 'Land of Kamasutra', I'm completely in favor of premarital sex. If a person thinks he/she is ready to have sex before marriage, I think he/she has every right to do it. There is nothing wrong with premarital sex, as the common belief is in our society.
Premarital sex is rather taboo in India which always confuses me. Being born in the 'Land of Kamasutra', I'm completely in favor of premarital sex. If a person thinks he/she is ready to have sex before marriage, I think he/she has every right to do it. There is nothing wrong with premarital sex, as the common belief is in our society.
Reuben Tyagi:
So I'm a very religious person, who believes and cherishes our rich 'pure' culture(yes) and tries to protect it as much as I can, and, I believe putting a stamp of "immorality" on it is absurd and most importantly, against the very culture we laid and say it insults and abuses.
Yes, Passion and devotion from love(or without love) leads you to places you can't and won't want to evade and abandon.
However, before the partners decide on sharing their bodies with one another, they MUST give enough thought on it. The purity and divine feeling of oneness from such an intimate embrace can also turn into their most misjudged and devastating experience of their lifetime, leaving a scar on your mind forever. As I don't need to recite upon.
So, premarital sex can be ardent lovemaking with a cost. Pretty big one at it? Decide! However, I'm not against it. I completely support it
However, before the partners decide on sharing their bodies with one another, they MUST give enough thought on it. The purity and divine feeling of oneness from such an intimate embrace can also turn into their most misjudged and devastating experience of their lifetime, leaving a scar on your mind forever. As I don't need to recite upon.
So, premarital sex can be ardent lovemaking with a cost. Pretty big one at it? Decide! However, I'm not against it. I completely support it
Gayatri Murari: There's no harm in it. It's an act that's supposed to be between two people then why do other people have to be nosy and impose their views on it.
If two people are comfortable doing it then the society shouldn't make a big deal out of it by bringing in morality and chastity.
Yashi Saksena:I do not support premarital sex as I believe that most of the time people do not understand the seriousness of a relationship and eventually end up regretting it. Also the researches and evidences point out more negatives than positives. So, keeping every aspect in mind, I would say a big NO.
P.S. it has nothing to do with the Indian society, it's a big debate overall.
You see, everyone has their own perspective of seeing things and their own opinion about things. Some people are against premarital sex and some aren't. But it is their life. Whether they want to have sex before marriage or not, is their choice. The ultimate decision is always our own.
There are people who consider making love before marriage impure, a sin while some consider it as a way of expressing their love to their partner, to come closer emotionally. Because sex doesn't only mean two people sharing their body but their emotions as well.
But society needs to understand that making love before marriage has nothing to do with being impure or one's character and this is not something that THEY have to decide. People are mature enough to take decisions for themselves. If a girl has already had sex with a guy before her marriage, that doesn't make her less of a being. *And same for the guy.*
The generation has changed and modernized. People have become liberal minded. Now, two persons don't marry each other because they are virgin or "pure", but because they are willing to spend the rest of their life with one another with a promise that they'll stick together in the good and bad times & through thick and thin.
Virginity doesn't define a person or his/her character.
There still are people who aren't able to distinguish between virginity and character.
But this is what needs to be changed, the mindset needs to be changed.
I support premarital sex and I'm proud to say it out loud.
Do you?
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If two people are comfortable doing it then the society shouldn't make a big deal out of it by bringing in morality and chastity.
P.S. it has nothing to do with the Indian society, it's a big debate overall.
You see, everyone has their own perspective of seeing things and their own opinion about things. Some people are against premarital sex and some aren't. But it is their life. Whether they want to have sex before marriage or not, is their choice. The ultimate decision is always our own.
There are people who consider making love before marriage impure, a sin while some consider it as a way of expressing their love to their partner, to come closer emotionally. Because sex doesn't only mean two people sharing their body but their emotions as well.
But society needs to understand that making love before marriage has nothing to do with being impure or one's character and this is not something that THEY have to decide. People are mature enough to take decisions for themselves. If a girl has already had sex with a guy before her marriage, that doesn't make her less of a being. *And same for the guy.*
The generation has changed and modernized. People have become liberal minded. Now, two persons don't marry each other because they are virgin or "pure", but because they are willing to spend the rest of their life with one another with a promise that they'll stick together in the good and bad times & through thick and thin.
Virginity doesn't define a person or his/her character.
There still are people who aren't able to distinguish between virginity and character.
But this is what needs to be changed, the mindset needs to be changed.
I support premarital sex and I'm proud to say it out loud.
Do you?
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